As I assess my standing with God this day, a question I wish I would have asked more often is, “What’s the big deal?” What am I making into a big deal, and also, do I let myself get pulled into reacting to other people’s big deals?
I think of mornings that were grumpy.
I think of feeling easily inconvenienced.
I think of irritating comments people have made.
I think of politics.
I think of laziness brought on by mental stereotypes that say certain things are “difficult:” cooking dinner, doing homework, cleaning the garage, visiting relatives, playing Monopoly, hosting dinners.
Why is any of that a big deal? It doesn’t have to be. But in our stiff-necked way, that dramatic, excitable perspective is what we've cemented into our brains by our own choosing. And that's how big deals perpetuate, sometimes handed down from generation to generation.
This is where God comes in. When we are saved, God completely transforms our thinking and our hearts. Or…that’s the idea. As we grow in Christ through the reading of Scripture, praying, discipleship and desiring to leave the sin that God reveals to us behind, we start to see things His way. So cleaning the garage becomes service--joyful service to God. Mornings become the joy of another day of breath and life and counting all the ways life is good: salvation, thriving health, a job, family, spouses who love us, a home to live in, etc. Inconveniences become blessings: spontaneous moments spent with friends and family and maybe even strangers; lending a helping hand and experiencing God at work in us; going out of our way only to be blessed by a revelation or conviction from God through the experience. Cooking dinner becomes the breaking of bread in fellowship that the Bible highly regards, and is God’s provision of nourishment for our bodies. Playing Monopoly with the kids? Focus on the joy on their faces as the hours go by. Time spent with children is truly priceless. One day, they move away. One day, we’ll suddenly be ready to play Monopoly but nobody will be there to play. These are the things we don’t think about when we’re so busy sighing and whining over our supposed big deals.
So I ask myself, where are my big deals? Are they silly? Are they embarrassing and shameful when I see the pride and self-centeredness that makes them big deals in the first place?
What’s the antidote? From where does our help come? God’s perspective! He will show us how He sees our big deals. He’ll reveal to us how we’ve been reacting without thinking, and how we’ve turned away from Him in favor of our immaturity and self-centeredness. And then God will point us to what He considers His Big Deal: Love.
Turn to 1 Corinthians 13:4-8, a passage which, unfortunately, can sound cliche because it’s been recited at so many secular weddings. But it is one of the most powerful verses in the Bible in eradicating the big deals of our own making, and replacing them with God’s grace.
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
God’s grace….we need so much more of it guiding our steps and our words than we’ve been willing to allow. Our big deals come so much more naturally to us than God’s love. Yet, “His divine power has given us everything we need for life and godliness through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness” (2 Peter 1:3). So no excuses. Today’s the day. Only through God’s grace can we end the litany of our personal and prideful big deals and replace it with the habit of God’s grace.
“Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins. Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling. Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others, faithfully administering God’s grace in its various forms.” 1 Peter 4:8-10
“Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:4-7
“Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.” Philippians 4:8-9