I would like to propose a modus operandi which focuses on what is “of God” for us and our life as stated in Scripture.
For you have been called for this purpose, since Christ also suffered for you, leaving you an example for you to follow in His steps,”
“The one who desires life, to love and see good days,
Must keep his tongue from evil and his lips from speaking deceit.
“He must turn away from evil and do good;
He must seek peace and pursue it.
“For the eyes of the Lord are toward the righteous,
And His ears attend to their prayer,
But the face of the Lord is against those who do evil.”
His divine power has given us everything we need for a godly life through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness. Through these he has given us his very great and precious promises, so that through them you may participate in the divine nature, having escaped the corruption in the world caused by evil desires.
For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; and to godliness, mutual affection; and to mutual affection, love. For if you possess these qualities in increasing measure, they will keep you from being ineffective and unproductive in your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. But whoever does not have them is nearsighted and blind, forgetting that they have been cleansed from their past sins.
Therefore, my brothers and sisters, make every effort to confirm your calling and election. For if you do these things, you will never stumble, and you will receive a rich welcome into the eternal kingdom of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.”
Certainly we have the Holy Spirit to guide us. Jesus Himself said He would send the Counselor to guide us into all truth. And we can listen to the Holy Spirit, knowing that the Bible never prescribes “thee one” woman, man, friend, place, or ministry. We are to test whether the job, ministry position, potential boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse is in line with Scripture and if the Holy Spirit is giving us peace about our decision.