A mature forgiveness considers who a person is today, not who they were in their questionable or struggling mental or emotional state of yore (even if "yore" was yesterday).
A mature forgiveness considers that a person may have changed positively for them—but not from our own perspective.
A positive change in another person can be—again from our limited self-perspective—decried by us as a negative for any number of reasons—the main reason being that we don’t like the change as it relates to us personally.
Can we accept and allow for another person’s having changed for their betterment, regardless of whether or not we personally like the change?
Can we be happy for them, even if it alters the dynamics of our relationship with them?
If so, then we are living in a paradigm of forgiveness.
Copyright Barb Harwood
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